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Do’s and Don’ts for a first date
We all know how happy you can be when you’re not single, but we also know how nerve recking a first date can be for some people. So here’s some handy do’s and dont’s to help you on your way down love lane!
Don’t get too excited: It’s totally normal to be excited for a date, but building a date up to be the best night of your life isn’t recommended. Expecting a date to be average is better because if it turns out much better than average then it will be a pleasant surprise. And if the date is a let down then you haven’t got very far to fall from average.
Be yourself: This doesn’t just mean being how do are at home; slobbing around in your pj’s with your hair tied up in a messy ponytail (yes we know you all do that!), but be the best version of yourself as you possibly can. There’s nothing worse than falling for your date and then realising he’s not who he said he was. This also doesn’t mean pouring your deepest secrets and problems out to him on the first date. Clingy is definitely not attractive ladies. Just chill out, act natural and all in all just have fun!
Listen: I can guess that your idea of a perfect date is definitely not talking to a brick wall or a conversation hog, so don’t do the same things yourself.
A guy doesn’t like a conversation hogger, but at the same time probably doesn’t want to blab on and on with no response. The key is to keep the conversation flowing, easier said than done. If he asks you what you do for a living, explain in just enough detail and then ask him the same question. If you’re lucky, you might have a connection with his work or the area he works in, so you can keep the conversation going. Ask him about him family or spontaneous questions such as his dream home or holiday, this is often a really good conversation started and an interesting change from ‘where do you work?’. Also try and keep the conversation light, getting too deep on the first date is a bit off putting.
Try to have fun: Or at least look like you’re having fun. A date often becomes awkward if your date knows that you’re not having a good time. Obviously don’t act like you’re having the most amazing time of your life, especially if your date’s a total creep, but trying to keep the conversation going and acting positively is always a good thing.
Be open to unique date ideas: Most people think that a nice dinner or a cosy night at the movies is a good enough date. However some people definitely try to make a slightly more ‘interesting’ impression. A candle lit picnic or a paint balling war could be your idea of a nightmare date, but give it a try, if the date doesn’t go well at least you will have something to talk about with your friends! And you never know, it might totally change your perspective on paintballing too!
Wear sexy underwear: We’re not encouraging first date fondling, but even wearing your best lingerie will make you feel sexy and confident, and it’s a win win situation if you do get a bit farther than a good-night kiss.
Drink too much: One drink is fine, two is probably the limit. Any more than that could be a potential relationship murderer. Even if your date is drinking, you should make sure when to stop. I had a friend that was really calm and collected when sober, but after a few martini’s and she would blubber and sob non stop. Quit the wine works ladies, it’s not attractive. Or at least until you both know each other a little better.
Lead him on: I’m not saying that you should tell him exactly how you thought the date went, but the ending conversation/line is pretty much a good indication. If you like him and want to see him again, then something along the lines of “I had a really great time, time flew by. We should definitely do this again!” and then a good-night kiss if you want to, but don’t be too clingy. Remember, it’s only the first date. If it wasn’t an amazing date then “It was great meeting you, all the best in the future/with work”. And leave it at that, don’t lead him on by smooching because it will give the wrong impression.
Don’t be too judgemental: Like being open-minded about dating ideas, it’s good to be open-minded about the actual date. Don’t be too judgemental with their personality or looks. Give the date a few tries before you totally cross them out of your book, but at the same time if the date is one of the most boring or arrogant people you have ever met, or even if he is just a nutcase, then you should do something about it. Answering a ‘fake’ phone call that your friend is ill, or that you have just remembered about some work you need to do is inevitably cheesy, but is a good and almost guilt free way of getting out of the date.
Don’t talk about your ex: We know you’re reading this and thinking ‘do you think i’m stupid?!’ but honestly, some people do. Whether its that you’re still in love or have feelings for your ex, or are really good friends with him. Whatever your reason, it can be said to a boyfriend or girlfriend, but obviously not on the first few dates. Usually if your blabbing on about what memories you’ve got with bob, then your new date automatically assumes that you still have feelings for bob and that your new date is wasting their time. So keeping a lock on the ex talk is a must, the mindless flirty sex talk however, is your choice.